Have you ever been upset with someone? Have you told the person objectively about how you feel? Do you usually express when hurt? There are many reasons for which we sometimes do not express why we are upset about something and that keeps growing in our heads… until one day the volcano erupts.
Why We Do Not Express When Hurt
I believe the reasons for holding back even when hurt are:
- Telepathy – Sometimes we expect others to magically know how we feel about something. We want others to know automatically what we want and transfer our responsibility of expressing directly.
- Fear of disapproval – We may fear that the person will not agree with our reasons for being upset.
- Conflict avoidance – We believe that talking about it will result in unpleasantness.
- Hopelessness – Sometimes we believe that the situation will not change. So, we just give up trying.
- Pride – Sometimes we do not express our hurt because we feel that the person will know how important they are to us. We feel that this will reduce our value in their eyes.
While we should express our feelings, we should be cautious not to come through as “someone who keeps cribbing.” Moreover, we need to be careful to avoid accusations. I will be writing another post on how to express when hurt.
Sometimes Telepathy also works Priya…
Since last few days I was feeling somewhat low, hurt and disgusted, thought to diminish my anguish by writing-as I always do. But this time it did’nt worked. I just hoped that someone would understand without my mentioning it. And today I saw these two articles that really cheered me up.
I have begun the recovery progress-talking with my mind,and will soon move on to the next step.
Thank you for writing -see telepathy worked here
I am feeling happy 
Thanks Shivangi… cant tell you how good your comment made me feel. I keep writing hoping that it would make someone smile and your comment made me think that my effort has not gone waste.
You seem to be a very positive person… ever ready to jump out of feelings of “hurt” and “low” and ready to begin the recovery process. I know how tough that is to do, but this is the only route to becoming a contributor of happiness to the circle of life.
I feel another reason why people don’t express when hurt is that they just accept the words that hurt them to be true. This makes them seclude themselves, closing doors for any communication.