Does it matter what people say about you? Should it matter what others say? Do you consider what people say before taking a decision? Many of us do. Do we want to?
What People Say vs. What you Believe
You may have gone to shop for a shirt with somebody. You try it and people say that it’s looking nice. But, it is not the thing you were looking for. People tell you that the fit, style and colors are ‘in’. But, that does not buy you in. Now, turn the tables. Everybody is telling you that it is the yuckiest shirt ever. However, you know that you will carry it off with panache. You buy it. That’s the power of self-belief.
What You Say vs. What Others Say
Do you really want to do it? Ask yourself and listen to the answers you get. While people give you hundred sensible reasons for choosing a way, it may not work for you just because you do not believe in it. Your instincts have the information that nobody else does. Taking them into account before making a decision is a must. However, that does not mean that you don’t listen to what people say. People who care for you always have the most valuable inputs. Often, we tend to ignore them. Rather, if we make the most of their thoughts, we will definitely get more reasons for why we want to do something.
Understanding What People Say vs. Communicating What you Believe
Communicate the reasons for choosing a certain path to your dear ones. More than understanding what people say, it is important that you understand what you believe and communicate it to people who care for you, but are not happy with your choice. This also takes care of mending relationships that have been damaged by such a conflicting situation.
In some cases it does matter, especially in certain situations, certain relationships. So listen to people who matter to you and who you believe are concerned about you, There are times when one is not in position to take a decision and it is these people who matter or are concerned about y our welfare that help you in taking a decision or choosing between right and wrong.
But yes i totally agree with you that one needs to convince others (here it refers to people who matter and not the general society) about choosing a certain path.
Neena, listening to anybody never harms. However, when we start believing somebody’s (that can be the closest of people to us) perception about us without thinking about it, things may go the wrong way.